“People are where they are because that is exactly where they really want to be – whether they will admit that or not.” – Earl Nightingale
The reason you are where you are, is because you chose to be there. If you have the ability to go beyond your current predicament, then find out what’s holding you back and drop it. I realized I’ve finally arrived at a place where I know why I’m not operating at 100%, and the only way to break that cycle, is to force change. Whether it’s throwing myself into a situation where there is no escape, therefore I have to re-rise, or getting back up from a defeat. The final level is your own mind. Learn to control your mind, learn to not listen to other people’s influences, turn off the talking box, turn off skype, get off the forum, and think.
Be alone with your thoughts for a day and try to deeply understand your problems and HOW you got into your current situation. If you don’t like it, change it. First you have to solve the root of the problem, mend the broken bridge.
One of my biggest problems early on in life was I wanted to make people feel comfortable, but there was also a darker side, that came out. Now I realize, that most people live their life thinking they have to battle the bad by pretending to be good. Well, what if I don’t want to give money to that charity…? Does that make me automatically bad? Wouldn’t that just make me neutral?
What if I really don’t give a shit about the next guy until I solve my own problems. Good and Bad will always exist within each man, and as a human you have to embrace both. What if I told you it’s alright to be bad? How much more freedom will you realize in your own mind? It’s also alright to be good. I stopped passing judgement on others, I don’t really give a shit what others do, they have their own demons to fight, maybe they’ll win the battle, most likely they won’t, either way it’s not going to change anything I do. Only reason I would concern myself with others’ activities is if I want to gossip, and if I have time to gossip, well then I really need to reconsider my priorities in life, no?
Look at your surrounding, look at the people that you call successful and look up to. Don’t listen to what they say, but WATCH what they do. What motivates them. What I’ve noticed is most people have a self-centered desire. Now, being self centered is not EVIL – somewhere along the way religion or society has pussified us into believing first looking out for yourself is evil. Is it evil to want to breathe? Is it evil to want to eat? Is it evil to want to survive on this earth? Is it evil to want to fulfill my own dreams and desires? What about if I want to fulfill them first, above all else? I can’t do any of that without first thinking of my own survival. But they teach you, man is of sin, going back to the myth of The Garden of Eden, where man fell into sin when he gained knowledge. Knowledge of what? Knowledge of thinking.
Tell me what animal on the planet can curse their own life, and sacrifice themselves for the good of others and expect to survive? None. But yet to think about being better than yourself and improving your own life – thinking in a self-centered first mentality is somehow evil?
Don’t be fooled by society’s propaganda. When the cards are down, every single person is going to try and save themselves first, then maybe their neighbor. So if at the basic level you are wired to survive, why is it that we, for the most part, are taught to lead a life where we are indoctrinated to think of others first? There is only one reason for that… The dollar bill. Remember I said to no longer listen to what people say, but WATCH their actions.
Imagine you are visiting this planet from another world, you observe humans congregating in a group, then giving themselves to that group’s leader. The humans are giving that group’s leader their time, effort, maybe even money, or the whole of their life… Would you think this is an intelligent species? Some of you may imagine that I’m talking about a cult, others might think of a religious priest, yet others will think of their employers, you see what happens from different perspectives. But the game is still the same. Instead of listening and following your own desires, not what society and your parents tell you are your desires, but you’re own true desires, you are following around some ‘group leader’ and helping them fulfill their own desires or dreams. I guarantee you that you are answering to someone else, and that’s one of the main things that is holding you back. You might be listening to a ghost’s desires which you are following and not even realizing it consciously.
You’d better wake up fast. Life is passing you by, you aren’t suppose to be a robot, if you’ve got a job, create a business that’ll allow you to escape the shackles of following someone else’s dreams. If you’ve got a business, figure out how to automate it so you can live more of your life and not have your life become just “work”. Hell if you love working, then do it. But there is nothing wrong with NOT loving working. Just like there is nothing wrong with thinking of your own self interest first.
I’ll leave you with a paragraph from John Galt’s speech in Atlas Shrugged that hopefully starts to create a crack in the foundation that’s holding you back:
“The good, say the mystics of spirit, is God, a being whose only definition is that he is beyond man’s power to conceive-a definition that invalidates man’s consciousness and nullifies his concepts of existence. The good, say the mystics of muscle, is Society-a thing which they define as an organism that possesses no physical form, a super-being embodied in no one in particular and everyone in general except yourself. Man’s mind, say the mystics of spirit, must be subordinated to the will of God. Man’s mind, say the mystics of muscle, must be subordinated to the will of Society. Man’s standard of value say the mystics of spirit, is the pleasure 0f God, whose standards are beyond man’s power of comprehension and must be accepted on faith. Man’s standard of value, say the mystics of muscle, is the pleasure of Society, whose standards are beyond man’s right of judgment and must be obeyed as a primary absolute. The purpose of man’s life, say both, is to become an abject zombie who serves a purpose he does not know, for reasons he is not to question. His reward, say the mystics of spirit, will be given to him beyond the grave. His reward, say the mystics of muscle, will be given on earth-to his great-grandchildren.
Selfishness-say both-is man’s evil. Man’s good-say both-is to give up his personal desires, to deny himself, renounce himself, surrender; man’s good is to negate the life he lives. Sacrifice-cry both-is the essence of morality, the highest virtue within man’s reach.
“Whoever is now within reach of my voice, whoever is man the victim, not man the killer, I am speaking at the deathbed of your mind, at the brink of that darkness in which you’re drowning, and if there still remains within you the power to struggle to hold on to those fading sparks which had been yourself-use it now. The word that has destroyed you is ‘sacrifice.’ Use the last of your strength to understand its meaning. You’re still alive. You have a chance.”
You still do have a chance… If you don’t like where you are at, reject everything that is shackling you down and take back control of your life, your destiny, and your future… There is only one turn in this game of life – no do overs, no repeats, it’s your move….
Thank you, I have been trying to break out of a rut for years but have not been able to understand what it was. Since my youth I was taught to take care of others first and myself second. To protect family, friends and whoever else I was involved with before looking after my own needs. This has in many cases put me in positions that have negatively impacted my life. I could sense there was a problem but didn’t know what it was as I solved everyone’s problems but my own. People looked up to me and I think in many cases became dependent on me which fueled my personal needs. I guess I learned the concepts so well that I couldn’t see that I was taking care of everyone but myself..
You may have showed me on a path where I can begin to understand this mindset and start to overcome its effects. I have read many things over the years but your few paragraphs have hit home with me on a level that I cannot explain. I am grateful. Now I will need to think. Thank you very very much.
LOL, this is a pretty slick traffic leak. Last two sentences confirmed my gut instinct. I’ll let it slide cause I like how it used several point, so you either really read it or skimmed it. I assume your using Mattseh’s NicheOutReach 😉
You give me too much credit. My reply to your post was sincere and I did read your post-have actually read many of your posts over the last week. Found most of them brilliant. I guess I should thank you for saying that I had an ulterior motive. I would think that someone like me having someone of your caliber think that I was trying something is probably quite a compliment. I am just a person trying to move forward during a unique time in my life and have found many of your insights valuable. Because of you, I have read 118 pages of “Thick Face Black Heart” this afternoon and intend to finish it this weekend. I see where you have gained some of your wisdom.
Here is a fun fact. It took me 28 minutes of rewrites to send you this short note. That’s how important this is to me
I stand corrected. I’m glad you liked my posts. I’ve been in the Mud so long it’s sometimes all I can see. 😀
“Thick Face, Black Heart” is a great good. I love it. It’s based off of “Thick Black Theory” but the english translation leaves something left to be desired, regardless I still love reading that one as well.
If you ever have any topics you want me to write about feel free to drop me a line. 🙂
I will repeat myself. Those who don’t take what CCarter says seriously doom tbemselves to a life of peasantry.
I wish I didn’t read this in bed because honestly something so thought provoking and full of self reflection will keep me up for an hour or two more. Though the peaceful darkness will eventually consume me, stripping one’s self of life’s heavy chains can often be a difficult task, but one that is entirely rewarding and necessary to follow your desires.
Hell of a post
Thanks CW. One thing I want to convey on this website is how people’s original wiring or imprint has indoctrinated our society which has created the world we live in. If people can first understand this, then eventually reformat this thought processes to break these chains, they’ll be a lot freer and happier.
That video simply is EPIC. Thanks for posting it, as I haven’t seen it before, and not to say, it’s the first time I hear about “think and you’ll become” law, but I like how he explains it in a very easy to understand manner.
Earl is a legend.
Great post CCarter. Actually after seeing title I thought it will be about something else. What about morality when it comes to sale of products/services that we know are useless (or almost useless)?
This is the one of those things that I have biggest problem with. There is a lot of money to be made in this niche, but I know that products offered are just bunch of BS… Still people are buying those things and hope they will actually get what’s advertised. In general it’s a health related niche. Supplements that are advertised as “miracle” pills that helps fight cancer cells. Of course, it’s total BS. It costs a lot of money, and is just like any other minerals or vitamins that can be bought for a fraction of the price. I’m curious what is your take on this, personally I just don’t want to sell stuff like this.
Some people can cross the line and some can’t. Life is full of snake oil salesmen. If you don’t sell it the next man will. If you can’t sleep at night cause your morality is holding you back then don’t sell it. It’s your life and you’ll have to deal with the consequences, whether real or imaginary. What I would do is irrelevant, it’s your choice, and the way you worded it, it’s clear you don’t want to sell it. Even if you did sell it, you’d probably subconsciously try to destroy your own success in some manner if it’s really against your ‘morals’. You already have the answer you seek.
Ok, well… Name of the site speaks for itself.. 😉
Maybe I haven’t responded since I’m grinding 24/7 and not communicating with anyone till I get my new project off the ground…
Hope it’s going well 😉
Is it me or video is not playing?
The video plays fine for me.